How To Deal With Losing Friends During A Spiritual Awakening

When you have a spiritual awakening, your entire world collapses. Not only does your perception of life change, but your environment will also start reflecting your new inner world.

It may come as a shock at first, waking up is akin to waking up as a baby for the first time. How exactly do you deal with losing friends during a spiritual awakening?

When you have your first initial awakening, a part or all of your ego is torn apart. Before your awakening, you may have been blinded by the ego’s desires and may have had friendships that were unsatisfactory to your true life path. Letting go is the key.

Initial Shock of Spiritual Awakening

A spiritual awakening is an incredibly powerful experience.

Your perception, needs, and desires are changing. Your inner beliefs, thoughts, and ideas of the world are in the process of letting go.

You may feel that you’re lost and don’t know where to turn.

Your awakening will put you in a place so you can reflect on your life and all of your decisions that have led up to this moment.

It may come to your attention that some of your friends may have not entirely been there for you or that your life path is no longer with them. This does not mean that your friends are bad people, it means that your inner self has changed.

I would advise you to not make any drastic decisions early on and avoid telling your friends that you no longer need them. It may be that just at the moment you need a breather to collect your thoughts on this powerful experience that just occurred.

It is perfectly normal to undergo an experience like this. here is a full depth explanation to help you along your journey.

I would recommend to give yourself some time before you decide what to do. The idea that you may lose your friends during your spiritual awakening can be scary, it is best though to just give it some time.

First Time Letting Go

Spiritual awakening will force you to let go whether you like it or not. It isn’t up to you anymore on what the universe has to decide, whatever happens is in the hands of true nature itself.

When you start to see your attachments start slipping away from you, your friends, hobbies, desires, it can be a difficult experience.

It’s a process that can last years. I didn’t feel right for at least 2 years and the journey continued on after.

Life is a process of letting go. Everything will be let go of eventually. On your spiritual journey you will find over and over again that no matter what it is, that it must be let go of.

This too shall pass. Good and bad. Beautiful and ugly. Enlightened and unenlightened.

If you are worried that losing your friends is a bad thing, I urge you to take a deep look at what is going in this moment.

  • Were your friends really in line with your life’s purpose?
  • Did your friends always support you on your life path?
  • Do you feel comfortable being around them or are they more of a burden of toxicity on your life?

You may find that your prior friendships were based on ego rather than true connections. Now that the ego has nothing to protect it anymore as a portion or all of it has been destroyed, you become more aware of the truth.

It can be a tremendous task to be honest with yourself. A spiritual awakening forces you to be honest.

Take that honesty and use it. Don’t be afraid, nothing will happen. Go with the fear.

Life Without Friends

It can feel horrible if you have decided to distance yourself from friends during your spiritual awakening. People that you knew for years only to see them leave in an instant.

Life is a flow. Sometimes you have a lot of friends, sometimes you have none. Sometimes you have a lot of money and sometimes you have none.

The best thing you can do to cope with losing friends is to just understand that there isn’t anything you can do. Be at complete mercy to the world, don’t try to fight it.

The more you fight the harder it pushes back.

This is all a game of surrendering.

The faster you surrender to it, the less suffering you experience. Funny how that works, huh?

Become aware of exactly what it is that is going on right now in the moment for you. If you are feeling pain about losing your friends, then so be it. Don’t fight it, go into it. Meditate on it. Be the pain as much as possible.

This. Too. Shall. Pass.

It will pass. You will make new friends, friends that are on your life path with you.

Your job might change, your hobbies might change, your life will change. Don’t be afraid of the change, go with it.

As you progress further and further, these hard lessons you learn early on will all make sense eventually.

It’s a trust in something greater, a trust in the universe.


The initial shock of awakening is surely something that will be felt in the deepest parts of your soul. The time is now to do some self-reflection on your choices up until that moment. It may have no been obvious to us in hindsight, but with a clear mind after awakening, you will start to see how many of your actions weren’t in line with your deepest purpose.

If you are new to awakening, I would advise you not to make any drastic decisions right away. Take some personal time to figure out exactly what it is you need to confront and then make the big decisions. I personally told my best friend even to this day that “we aren’t aligned anymore” and that was a mistake and I wish I hadn’t said such a thing.

Be careful now as you move forward. Life is being thrown at you in every direction and it’s normal to be off-balanced. Take some time to reintegrate into your new experience, there is nothing to be ashamed of. The earliest parts of an awakening seem so frightening at first but over time you will find that they were necessary along your journey.

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3 thoughts on “How To Deal With Losing Friends During A Spiritual Awakening”

  1. that was exactly what I needed to hear. My best friend called me and it was a bad vibe… I knew our friendship was over… but then I have barely any friends right now… But there is something truly noble and beautiful about surrender… that there’s nothing I can do… I prefer that. I prefer the growth, rather than the false comfort. Thank you sir 😉

  2. I’ve been struggling with a fading friendship. Up at 3 a.m. thinking about it. Asked the universe to send me what I needed to know in this moment and here I am. Another perfect example of the universe taking care of me and all of us when we tune in.

    This is exactly what I needed to know at exactly the right time. Your writing style resonates. Thank you.


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