How To Deal With Losing Friends During A Spiritual Awakening

When you have a spiritual awakening, your entire world seems to be shifting rapidly. Not only does your perception of life change, your environment will also start reflecting that change.

It may come as a shock at first, waking up is akin to waking up as a baby for the first time. How exactly do you deal with losing friends during a spiritual awakening?

When you have your first initial awakening, a part or all of your ego is torn apart. Before your awakening, you may have been blinded by the ego’s desires and may have had friendships that were unsatisfactory to your true life path. Letting go in the moment is the key.

Initial Shock of Spiritual Awakening

A spiritual awakening is an incredibly powerful experience.

Everything will change. Your perception changes, your needs, and desires will change and so many other things that you once held onto are now in the process of being let go.

It is better to understand this process early on than get confused and ask too many questions, sometimes during our awakening we don’t always get the answers that we want.

Your awakening will put you in a place so that you can reflect on your life and all of your decisions that have led up to this moment.

It may come to your attention that some of your friends may have not entirely been there for you or that your life path is no longer with them. This does not mean that your friends are bad people, it just means that you have changed.

I would advise you to not make any drastic decisions early on and avoid telling your friends that you no longer need them. It may be that just at the moment you need a breather to collect your thoughts on this powerful experience that just occurred.

It is perfectly normal to undergo an experience like this. here is a full depth explanation to help you along your journey.

I would recommend to try and give yourself some time before you decide on what to do. The idea that you may lose your friends during your spiritual awakening can be scary, it is best though to just give it some time.

First Time Letting Go

The concept of “letting go” may not have seemed entire clear before a spiritual awakening has happened.

Your spiritual awakening will force you to start letting go whether you like it or not. It isn’t up to you anymore on what the universe has to decide, whatever happens is in the hands of true nature itself.

When you start to see it directly in front of you, that you may have to let go of friends, hobbies, desires, it can be a difficult experience.

It took me a few years before I finally let go of some of the stuff I was clinging on to for so long after my initial awakening.

Life is a process of letting go. Everything will be let go of eventually. On our spiritual journey we will find over and over again that no matter what it is, that will be let go of too.

This too shall pass. Good and bad. Beautiful and ugly. Enlightened and unenlightened.

If you are worried that losing your friends is a bad thing, I urge you to take a deep look at what is going in this moment.

  • Were these friends really in line with your life’s purpose?
  • Did these friends always support you on your life path?
  • Do you feel comfortable to be around them or are they more of a burden of toxicity on your life?

You may find that these people in your life may have just been there because your ego was protecting itself. Now that the ego has nothing to protect it anymore as a portion or all of it has been destroyed, you become more aware of what is going on truthfully.

It can be a tremendous task to be honest with ourselves. A spiritual awakening forces you to be honest.

Take that honesty and use it. Don’t be afraid, nothing will happen. Go with the fear.

Life Without Friends

It may seem so horrible if you have decided to lose some friends during your spiritual awakening. These people that you knew for so long and they are just gone like the wind.

Life is a flow. Sometimes you have a lot of friends, sometimes you have none. Sometimes you have a lot of money and sometimes you have none.

The best thing you can do to cope with losing friends is to just understand that there isn’t actually anything you can do about it. Be at complete mercy to the world, don’t try to fight it.

The more you fight the harder it pushes back.

This is all just a game of surrendering.

The faster we surrender to it, the less suffering we experience. Funny how that works, huh?

Become aware of exactly what it is that is going on right now in the moment for you. If you are feeling pain about losing your friends, then so be it. Don’t fight it, go into it. Meditate on it. Be the pain as much as possible.

This. Too. Shall. Pass.

It will pass. You will make new friends, friends that are on your life path with you.

Things change so fast after a spiritual awakening, it really is like a shock to the system.

Give yourself time if you need it as you are most likely new on your spiritual journey and are just in need of some self reflection.

Awakening is a process that must be done, the universe will do anything to get you to sit down and to realize what is your true nature in this life.

Your job might change, your hobbies might change, your life will change. Don’t be afraid of the change, go with it.

As you progress further and further, these hard lessons you learn early on will all make sense eventually.

It’s a trust in something greater, a trust in the universe.


The initial shock of awakening is surely something that will be felt in the deepest parts of your soul. The time is now to do some self-reflection on your choices up until that moment. It may have no been obvious to us in hindsight, but with a clear mind after awakening, you will start to see how many of your actions weren’t in line with your deepest purpose.

If you are new to awakening, I would advise you not to make any drastic decisions right away. Take some personal time to figure out exactly what it is you need to confront and then make the big decisions. I personally told my best friend even to this day that “we aren’t aligned anymore” and that was a mistake and I wish I hadn’t said such a thing.

Just be careful now as you move forward. Life is being thrown at you in every direction and it’s normal to be off-balanced. Take some time to reintegrate into your new experience, there is nothing to be ashamed of. The earliest parts of an awakening seem so frightening at first but over time you will find that they were necessary along your journey.

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