Wondering how to change yourself completely overnight?
If it were possible, I’d be selling you the secret sauce. The cold hard truth is that change takes time.
You can make a small change today that will change tomorrow. Your tomorrow reflects the actions you took today.
You won’t see the results a day after you start on your path to change. Maybe not even the week after that or even a month. You need to see the big picture.
You want change that lasts. Change that betters not just you, but everyone involved in your life. By changing your inner world it reflects onto your outer world.
You only need to understand the process of change. You have to start somewhere, and that somewhere is right here and now.
Below you will find the 5 step process I’ve been using for years to get real change that produces real results.
1) Start Today
Accept where ever you may be right now.
Acknowledging you are ready for change is a signal that you’ve conceded. You’re admitting that you might have acted wrong in a situation or realize that your life is in desperate need of serious life changes.
Congratulations, you’ve made the hardest step. But now you need to start today and start now.
If you want to:
- become a better person
- lose weight
- find happiness
- be successful
- learn a new language
- travel the world
- quit smoking
- get sober
It all starts TODAY. You’re capable of making a change right in this moment. A better tomorrow comes from the actions that occur today.
Slowly but surely you will carve your path forward. The first step is always the hardest. By moving forward and taking the action to better your life, your mind will start accepting its new reality.
2) Start Small
You’re not going to start a diet, make new friends, quit smoking AND learn a new language all at the same time.
Give yourself space in between each change. When deciding on a new obstacle I’d like to tackle, I still limit myself to one thing. I only add on more obstacles once I’m already a few months into another goal.
I’m not a superhuman and you aren’t either. Even changing one aspect of your life is a big ordeal. You have no pressure to complete a multitude of tasks at the same time.
Start small. If you want to start losing weight, start cutting out soda.
Want to learn a new language? Study five minutes a day.
Quit smoking? Smoke 2 less cigarettes than you normally would.
You want real change that lasts. What you don’t want is to take on a plethora of challenges all at once and burn out a few weeks into it.
Make that first small change and stick with it. You want to start the snowball effect. One small change leads to another and then you have the ball rolling, baby!
3) Compound Your Changes
Small changes add up.
Imagine you want to lose 100 pounds. To lose weight that stays off, you must maintain a weight loss of around 1 to 1.5 pounds a week.
After 52 weeks of making increasingly bigger changes, you’d have lost 78 pounds! Along your path you’d likely add in exercise, better eating habits and sleeping more. You’d be a completely different person within a year.
Keep the bigger picture in mind. The day to day grind can make you feel like you haven’t moved an inch.
That’s your mind playing tricks on you. It’ll do anything to get you to revert back to old habits. You push through, though.
Your compounding changes will start to have real, impactful effect in your life.
It’s easy in hindsight. When you’re in the thick of it and slugging it out every day, it seems like the toughest thing in the world to keep going.
But you keep compounding those changes. Every day. They add up.
4) Be Realistic
You want to learn how to change yourself completely. That’s certainly possible, you just have to be realistic about it.
Set realistic goals. Make daily, monthly and yearly goals so that you have something to work towards.
You can’t expect yourself to become a master of anything in a year’s time. The reality is that you CAN become incredibly good at something devoting a year of your efforts.
When I started this blog I wasn’t the best writer. I’m still not the best, but compared to where I was a few months ago, you wouldn’t be able to tell it was the same person writing.
I wrote, every day, for almost six months straight. My goal wasn’t necessarily to become a better writer, it happened naturally. I was completely shocked at how much I grew in that short period of time.
Yes, six months is a short period of time for change. It can take years to grow something real. That’s why you need to be honest and realistic with what you’re trying to accomplish.
Be happy where you end up. Failure is part of the process.
Real growth, real change, takes time.
5) It’s the Journey
I spent years of my life chasing change. I got obsessed. I forgot why I even started the journey in the first place.
It was so that I could live a happier life.
That was the biggest wake-up call in my life. I was challenging myself every single day and when I got to the “end goal” in my mind, fulfillment wasn’t there.
That was it? All of my pain, sweat and tears amounted to a feeling of emptiness?
It was like I was lied to by everyone. “Reach for your dreams, you’ll be happy!” they said.
I forgot the journey was part of my life along the way. I was sacrificing today for tomorrow. I forgot that tomorrow never comes.
Joy, happiness, love can all be felt along the way to your destination. Forgetting about yourself is a mistake. You are trying to change so that your life will be better.
Find happiness along the way. Relish the challenge, give yourself time off, enjoy life. Self improvement can become an addiction with no end.
You have to find fulfillment somehow along the way otherwise you’ll forever be chasing the next goal post.
Change Starts Today
Today. Not tomorrow, not a week from now, today. You’ve heard it over and over, it’s a cliché for a reason.
Be easy on yourself, though. Real change takes time. You will find challenges along the way, mountains you thought you never could climb.
But you will climb them! And you’ll conquer your goal, and then you’ll be facing another plethora of challenges. The game never ends.
The real trick though is to find enjoyment, happiness along the way.
If you think you’ll find it at the end, you’ll be mistaken.
So, what are you waiting for?
Your journey begins now.