How To Bounce Back Hard When You’re Failing At Life

Are you failing at life?

Relax, everyone is.

There are the four steps you’ll need to take to bounce back hard from failure.

It’ll require a bit of hard work and dedication. But you want to stop failing, don’t you?

Now that you’re prepared, let’s get into it.

“I have Failed at Everything in my Life”

Welcome to the club.

It’s time to change your perspective on failure.

Failure is learning. Failure is a stepping stone to success. Failure is life.

Rewind the years and I was just like you. I couldn’t look at myself in the mirror, I thought I wasn’t worth anything.

Every failure felt like a mountain to climb over. I didn’t have the energy required to continue the process.

I failed at school, getting a girlfriend, going to college, attaining success, and staying sober.

I thought my life was destined to mediocrity.

My problem was I didn’t even put a minimal amount of effort in life.

How could I ever learn or progress if I wasn’t even willing to put in the bare minimum?

One day I was at the gym. I used to powerlift, I was attempting a personal record for an overhead press.

I was stuck for weeks on the same weight. I couldn’t for the life of me get this damn bar above my head.

I started to blast my favorite music, hyped myself up, and said to myself “I CAN DO THIS”.

As I approached the bar, I felt a fire inside me. It was all of the past regrets, failure, and self-doubt accumulating in my soul. It was at that moment that this personal record meant more than just lifting a weight above my head.

It was a test if I could push through past my failures and learn.

Three… Two.. One. The bar was above my head. The moment I lifted the weight up a lightbulb went off in my head.

I could do anything if I put my mind to it. The failures I faced in the past were insignificant. All that mattered was if I was capable of getting up, over and over again.

My confidence had never been higher. That was all I needed, a single instance to light a fire under my ass and kick my life into overtime.

When You’re Failing At Life: Four Step Process to Bounce back

1) Target where you’re Failing at Life

You’ve failed.

Now you’re ready to fix the issue.

Until you’ve tried, you’ll never know what you are capable of.

I’m not gifted. I’ve never once picked up a hobby and had natural talent.

The difference between me and most people is that I work hard. I don’t quit. My work ethic is insane, what seems very little to me would exhaust most.

Hell, most of the time I end up calling myself lazy for not pushing that extra 10 percent.

I’ve learned that it doesn’t matter not having an affinity for anything. Hard work beats talent every day of the week.

Start by acknowledging that you’re going to have to work hard. When I say “work hard”, I mean you work until you don’t think you can go anymore and then go another 10 percent.

Now, the issue most people face is that they aren’t learning through their failures. If you aren’t going to learn, you will repeat the process over again until you do.

I used to be incredibly hard-headed. It would cause me to lose months out of my life repeating the same failures. These were not just failures I was aware of, but ones that others had warned me in advance.

Target exactly where you are failing. Pinpoint the cause. Be honest with yourself, write it all out.

If it’s your unhappiness with your job or your longing for a significant other, don’t be afraid to empty your mind onto some paper.

Take a hard look at what you’ve written down and accept that you can change.

You’re capable as everyone else.

2) Make a Plan of Action

Now you’re ready to begin taking action.

Start with the tiniest of failures. Even if it seems insignificant, your mission now is to start banking wins.

By banking tiny wins over and over again, you’ll boost your confidence.

A portion of your failure stems from how you view yourself. You don’t see yourself as an action-taking hero who can demolish any task.

An action as small as cleaning your room will clear your mind and give you the energy to keep going.

Keep building from there and tackle the larger issues you’ve been facing.

When I was 21, I had no money or college education. I was working a dead-end job for $9.50 an hour that wasn’t enough to pay the bills.

Considering that I didn’t want to work retail for the rest of my short life, I decided to make a change.

I started to play poker. I knew that there were professionals out there making a killing. I wanted the freedom to travel the world and work on my own time.

I sucked. I sucked really, really horribly. I lost my savings more times than I could count. I “gave up” more times than I can remember.

There was a deep urge to keep going. Even when I failed miserably, I would take some time to collect my thoughts and try again.

I stopped expecting things would change if I kept repeating the same actions. I started studying before and after work. I played online with a very minimal amount of money just learning.

It took me a year to make a penny. An entire year of losing, every single day. A year of hard work just to get in the green by an insignificant amount.

That penny turned into a six-figure year. I started to make a plan for myself instead of sulking in my own misery, my life started changing.

You won’t see your success in a day from now or even possibly a year.

You’ll have to trust the process.

3) Trust the Process

Failure is a launchpad into success.

Without failing over and over again, you won’t know left from right.

You HAVE to fail. Not just once, not twice, but as many times as required until you move forward.

It takes a certain amount of trusting the universe that your journey will work out.

I’m not saying to sit in your house and pray that your failures will magically disappear. You’re going to have to trust that all of your hard work, failure and learning will pay off in the end.

And you know what? It will.

As long as you learn from your failures, grow and learn, you will get to where you want to be.

How can I be so sure?

Because not only I have done it more than once, everyone else with a success story has the same.

That’s the difference between unsuccessful and successful. It’s the number of times you’re willing to get knocked down and get back up again.

You’ll encounter failures that punch you in the gut. You won’t want to get back up again. It’ll seem like it was all for nothing.

But guess what you do?


There is no failure, only learning.

4)Execute the Program

You are prepared to face any difficulty ahead.

If you’re a “failure” now, know that you can change. Life can get better if you work hard. You are the only person who has the ability to change your destiny.

Stop victimizing yourself. Don’t point fingers. Execute the program.

No one will believe in you until you believe in yourself.

The universe is at your disposal.

Your future is a product of today. The past is irrelevant, it’s over. There is no use in reliving history.

There are 365 days in a year. If you put in 2 hours of work every day into your journey, you’ll have a month’s worth of time under your belt.

Now imagine what that looks like in 2, 3 years down the line.

If you think “you don’t have the time”, make time. Sleep less, work longer.

Most importantly, enjoy the process.

The hard work at the end doesn’t make you happy. You need to find joy in the failure along the way. Failing is a part of the bigger picture.

That’s the secret to success. Enjoying failure, thriving in it. Knowing that you can get up again despite the odds.

Don’t be afraid of failing.

Failure = One step closer to success.

On Your Way

You won’t be a failure for much longer. Put in the time and the universe will smile at you.

Failure is how you get to where you’re going. Without failure, there is no success.

You have all the tools necessary to succeed. Throw everything you have at it until you don’t have anything left to give.

Are you ready to start winning?

About Roy Cohen

Hi there! I'm the founder of Claiming Clarity. My passion in life is helping people live better. If you'd like to learn more, check out the about page.

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